My friend vividly recalled his first kiss with his wife a decade ago. They were sitting on the couch in her dad's living room and as he leaned over to kiss her, he lost his balance and fell off the couch, pulling her down with him. This was because he was so nervous and tensed up. The fact is that most couples feel abashed to talk about their first kiss more out of embarrassment than anything else.
But one thing that stands out is that there is no harm in asking what your partner prefers. However make it a point not to ask this question at the time of kissing.
Most men all over the world feel that women don't open their mouths wide enough while women feel men are too demanding. Basically it boils down to the fact that there is a lack of variety.
Kissing does not mean just kissing the lips but to kiss different parts of your partner's face. Remember what the Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana says - the most memorable effect of a kiss is pleasing your partner. The aim is make the partner feel desired.
Modern sociologists recommend something like Vatsyayana. They suggest gentle kisses on the neck, move up to the ear, then go to the lips. Take some small breaks and then come back to the lips. The idea should be to enjoy a kiss in a relaxed manner.
Steamy kissing sessions normally take place while dating and on honeymoons. But later on, when people are in a long-term relationship, they too often stop kissing and lose that intimate connection.
A Redbook poll has revealed that 79% of women don't kiss their husbands nearly as much as they'd like. Bear in mind that just because you are familiar with a partner over the years, there is no reason not to kiss often. Kissing is an expression of love. Once you kiss you don't have to say "I love you." Kissing the lips is itself a statement.
Reading the Kama Sutra can be a help. It describes many ways of kissing and for a couple which can be a great fillip to their relationship. It will also add variety to their life by kissing in as many ways as possible. Even reading "The Perfumed Garden" can be a help.
Kissing is also a sign of honesty, for if you love and cherish your partner the urge to kiss will always be there.