What we all seek in life is a soul mate, someone to share your life with! But even if we find a life partner, it takes a lot of hard work, dedication and consistency to sustain a healthy relationship. Mutual sacrifices must be made and patience is the key to success. Of course, finding the love of our life is not the easiest thing in the world. The reasons why we have a hard time pursuing love are many. Some of us don't know where to look; others feel disappointed by love due to a painful break-up while others are busy loving themselves more than anything else.
To begin with, despite common belief, I believe that the number one reason why someone can't enjoy love in the hands of a soul mate is egoism! Love is all about mutual respect, trust and understanding, which means that you will never be able to love someone unless you get rid of selfishness and ego. We, human beings want to have everything under control all the time, so when love comes into our lives, we feel like we're lost in the jungle! Our ego won't let us trust a person and that's just bad news. Human beings are supposed to be social beings with high level of communication skills. That's the source of all our achievements and love is one of them. Love is the absence of control and logic and only if you try it yourself, you'll be able to feel the rush.
It's not wrong to think of one person all day long or feel like you have butterflies in your stomach every time you see that specific person; that's the point of love! I know it's not easy to let go when you're not used to it; sharing your life with someone else can be terrifying, but you have to try; it's wonderful to have someone who cares about you and would do anything to make you happy. The second reason why we can't find a soul mate is because we look for it in the wrong place. Sometimes, we don't even know what exactly we want and some other times we just don't realize that the person we're looking for is right in front of our eyes! Most of the time, we often try to find the perfect match; so we search for an unspecified person who probably doesn't even exist! Of course, this problem can be solved easily; determine what you want and be precise! It's a lot easier to search for something specific. After all, it's your life and you can have whoever you want in it! Just make sure that you're not going to change your mind very soon; that's why you should be very careful from the very beginning! However, overthinking may cause some other problems like having the love of your life in front of you without even being aware of that!
Less is more in some cases and love matters belong in these cases. Before you get ready for a long trip in the search of love, just look around you and pay attention because there's a good chance that one of your best friends might be your future husband or wife! Besides, a good friend always knows us better; our merits and flaws, likes and dislikes! Last but not least, people who have experienced painful break-ups in the past may have second thoughts about long term relationships. I know that bad things happen and the only thing we can do is deal with them! Maybe you lose faith in people or love after you have your heart broken, but you can't live your life without love and company! So it's fine to take some time off after a tough break-up, but you can't just give up on life. Every day is a new day and you never know when you may get lucky. No matter how hard it might seem to get back on your feet after a huge disappointment, you have to make it for your own good!
To sum up, I believe that love is a drug that we all should try at least once so that we can say that our life is complete! Love can be found everywhere totally out of the blue and that's the point of it. Love makes our lives better and much more fun to live. It's not easy to find it, but when you do, you'll realize how lucky you are. Sometimes love can be a mixed blessing, but that's what makes it so special!